hello hello hello!! welcome or welcome back and i hope you enjoy today's topic.
today i wanted to write a little about relationships. not necessarily romantic relationships but friendships. right now, i'm 15 and a lot of the people who read these posts are also teenagers, so i feel like we can all relate to this topic in some way.
sometimes we grow apart from our friends, or break up with someone you thought was going to be your lifetime partner. though these things happen and are natural in this stage of our lives, we can't stay stuck on it forever.
when i started middle school, my mom repeatedly told me that "you are who you hang around." i didn't really understand to what extent she meant until recently. now, in high school, i see all of the different groups of people around me and i'm eternally grateful that i made friends with people that value similar things as me. i also realize that her statement was entirely true.
if you hang around people who are constantly getting in trouble, eventually you'll get in trouble and that might not be who you are inside. you might not even realize it until it is too late.
over the course of middle and high school, we are learning about who we are and figuring out so many things about ourselves. through this process, you'll naturally grow apart from people and you truly have to accept that. there is no point in staying on a sinking ship.
similarly, there are some people who will change into somebody you aren't fond of anymore and that's okay too.
and over time, you have to learn to let them go. don't stay hung up on someone that has already moved on, but reminisce on the joyful moments you had together. i thought that my childhood best friend would be my best friend forever, my bridesmaid at my wedding, all the things. but every for many years in a row, she forgot my birthday. for the first and second year i was heartbroken, because for some odd reason, birthdays matter SO much to me. i told her how i felt and the next year i got the same treatment. no happy birthday. nothing. even though i put in so much effort to write a huge paragraph on her birthday.
i write all this to say, if they wanted to they would. this is a common phrase used for romantic relationships, but is applicable to every aspect of your life. sadly, it's the hard truth and i had to come to terms with that.
some people are meant for only one chapter of your life and it's okay to move on from things you thought would last forever. your story is long and will be filled with many more. it's okay that you both grew up and grew apart. keep those happy memories in your mind. there will be others who will cherish and love you more than you've ever known. keep those people near and dear.
have a fantastic rest of your day and i'll catch you on the next one!!
don't wish for it, work for it.
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